Halloween, Homecoming, Football Games and Fall Events: Who Gets the Kids?
Fall can be one of the busiest times of the year for Texas families. Once school is fully underway, calendars quickly fill with football games, homecoming activities, dances, practices, performances, birthday parties, Halloween celebrations and other events. For divorced and separated parents, those activities can create questions that are not always answered as clearly as Thanksgiving, Christmas and other major holidays in a possession schedule. Who gets to take the children trick-or-treating? What happens when a Friday night football game or homecoming dance falls during the other parent's possession period? Can both parents attend a school event? What happens when an extracurricular activity conflicts with an exchange? The answers often depend on the language of the family's existing court order, which is why parents should review their orders before a scheduling disagreement turns into a larger custody dispute.
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Halloween Is Not Automatically a Holiday Under the Texas Standard Possession Order
One of the common misconceptions about Texas possession schedules is that every familiar holiday receives its own special possession rules. The Texas Standard Possession Order contains specific provisions addressing certain holidays and school breaks, including Thanksgiving and the Christmas school vacation, but parents should not assume that every occasion on the calendar automatically overrides the regular possession schedule. Halloween is a good example. Unless a family's particular order contains a provision addressing Halloween, or the parents agree to make another arrangement, possession will generally continue according to the schedule that otherwise applies.
That can matter considerably when children are young and both parents want to participate in Halloween traditions. One parent may want to attend a school costume parade, another may want to take the children trick-or-treating, and both may have family or neighborhood activities planned for the evening. Parents who communicate well can often work out an arrangement that allows the children to enjoy time with both households, but neither parent should simply assume that the importance of Halloween gives him or her the right to disregard the possession order. The safest starting point is always to read the actual order and determine who has possession before discussing any voluntary changes.
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Homecoming, Football Games and School Events Can Raise Different Questions
School activities can be more complicated because possession of the child and participation in the child's education are not necessarily the same thing. Under Texas law, conservators generally have certain rights involving access to information about their children's education and the ability to communicate with school officials, subject to the terms and limitations contained in the court order. Parents may also have rights involving attendance at school activities. That means a parent should not automatically assume that the other parent cannot attend a football game, school performance or similar activity merely because the event takes place during his or her period of possession.
At the same time, attending an event does not necessarily change possession of the child. Both parents might attend a Friday night football game, for example, while the existing possession schedule still determines which parent is responsible for the child afterward. Similar issues can arise with homecoming activities, school dances, performances and other events. The important distinction is that a parent's right to participate in aspects of the child's school life and the right to physical possession of the child can involve separate provisions of the custody order. Parents should therefore avoid making assumptions based simply on whose weekend it happens to be.
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Extracurricular Activities Can Become a Source of Parenting-Time Conflict
Sports and extracurricular activities create another recurring problem because children's schedules do not stop when possession changes from one parent to another. A child may have a soccer tournament on Saturday morning, football practice during the week, a dance competition over an entire weekend or another commitment that falls during a parent's scheduled possession time. When parents agree that an activity is beneficial and both support the child's participation, transportation and scheduling can often be handled without much difficulty. Problems are more likely when one parent enrolls the child in activities without meaningful communication with the other parent or when activities begin consuming substantial portions of the other parent's scheduled time.
Parents should review the provisions of their particular custody order concerning decision-making authority, extracurricular activities and possession before assuming that an activity automatically takes priority over court-ordered parenting time. The reverse is also true. A parent should consider the effect on the child before routinely using possession time as a reason to prevent participation in established activities that are important to the child. These disagreements often become less about a single soccer game or practice and more about communication, decision-making and whether each parent is respecting both the court order and the child's needs.
Teenagers Bring Another Layer to Fall Scheduling
These issues can become even more complicated as children get older and develop schedules of their own. A teenager may want to attend a homecoming dance, football game, birthday party, sleepover or other social event during a parent's scheduled weekend. Although a court order establishes the parents' respective possession rights, teenagers increasingly have school, extracurricular and social commitments that do not fit neatly into a custody calendar. A parent who expects an older teenager to abandon every social commitment because it happens to fall during that parent's weekend may create unnecessary tension, while a parent who treats every invitation as a reason to disregard the other parent's possession rights can create an entirely different problem.
Good co-parenting requires some practical judgment. When possible, parents can accommodate an important event without giving up the larger structure established by the possession schedule. A parent might take the teenager to a homecoming dance during his or her weekend, allow the child to attend a friend's birthday party or arrange transportation so an extracurricular commitment does not require changing the entire weekend. What parents should avoid is placing the child in the position of negotiating these arrangements or making the child feel responsible for choosing between a parent and an activity.
Parents Can Agree to Reasonable Schedule Changes
Many divorced parents make occasional adjustments to their possession schedules, particularly when doing so benefits their children. Parents might agree that one parent will take the children trick-or-treating this year even though Halloween falls during the other's scheduled possession, or they might adjust an exchange by several hours to accommodate a football game, dance or family event. These practical agreements can make co-parenting significantly easier and allow children to participate in important activities without turning every scheduling issue into a legal dispute.
However, parents should communicate clearly about what they have agreed to, particularly when an adjustment affects an exchange or overnight possession. Written communication can help prevent a later disagreement about when the child was supposed to return or whether additional parenting time was promised in exchange. Parents should also remember that routinely agreeing to informal changes does not necessarily rewrite the underlying court order. When cooperation breaks down, the written order remains critically important, and parents who have developed a substantially different long-term arrangement may want to discuss with a family law attorney whether a formal modification is appropriate.
When Fall Scheduling Problems Become Legal Problems
An isolated disagreement about Halloween or a football game is very different from a continuing pattern of interference with possession. Legal concerns may arise when a parent repeatedly refuses exchanges, intentionally schedules activities during the other parent's time, prevents the other parent from exercising rights provided by the order or uses children's activities as a recurring method of disrupting possession. Similarly, a schedule that worked when children were younger may become increasingly difficult as children enter middle school or high school and their academic, athletic and social obligations change.
When problems become persistent, parents should keep accurate records rather than relying on memory. Calendars, school schedules, activity schedules, text messages, emails and records of missed or altered exchanges may help an attorney understand whether the problem involves enforcement of the existing order, a possible modification or simply a disagreement that can be resolved without returning to court. The appropriate legal response depends heavily on the facts and the specific language of the family's order.
Review Your Texas Possession Order Before the Fall Calendar Gets Busier
The most important step parents can take is to avoid making assumptions. Halloween does not necessarily change a regular possession schedule. A football game does not automatically cancel an exchange. A parent's possession period does not necessarily mean the other parent has no right to attend a school activity. Likewise, an informal agreement to make an exception for one event does not necessarily create a permanent change to the custody order.
Fall should be a season when children enjoy football games, homecoming, Halloween, school activities and time with their families, rather than being placed in the middle of disputes over the calendar. Reviewing the custody order early, communicating about important events and addressing recurring problems before they escalate can help parents keep the focus where it belongs: on their children. If you have questions about possession schedules, parenting-time disputes, enforcement or modification of a Texas custody order, The Barrows Firm in Southlake, Texas, can help you understand how Texas family law applies to your family's circumstances.
